“Think and wonder. Wonder and think.” Dr. Suess
Connection is a powerful catalyst for change and something we all need, deeply.
I’m fascinated by what people post, how they spend their time and where. You find out the most interesting things. Including picture perfect lives that seem picture perfect. Intuitively I know they aren’t. No one has a picture perfect life. Some days it’s down right gobsmacking how I catch myself comparing my life to others lives. It’s disconcerting how a life can narrow down to Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook and 140 character Twitter sound bites.
It’s chilling quite frankly.
Those are the days that I literally slam the breaks on. Butt hitting the sand, sliding towards the crashing waves – like a batter sliding into first. Some days I hit the sand hard, late and inevitably close to the oceans edge. I dig my heals in so deep I tip right over and in. Guaranteed not graceful.
It’s in this moment – or the one where I emerge dripping wet – that these thoughts come to me. Don’t judge somebody’s outside by what’s going on in your insides. Be yourself. Connect with self. Then connect with others. In those moments change happens. Grace happens.
It can be hard to remember that picture perfect lives are not really picture perfect. But they can inspire change and connection. When connection begets change, then the impossible can happen.
Change, even when we resist it, will keep rolling in. One (or more) wave at a time, against and on the sand. Over and over. Again and again.
Change is not easy. It requires authentic connection. Connecting takes time. Both are investments that require emotional engagement, talking, thinking, talking more. Evolving. Then doing it again and again. Nothing less will work.
Life’s dance’s and journey’s have always been livelier when I don’t do the comparison thing. Connections are deeper. Changes are more quiet, powerful. I’m more than OK in those moments. Less critical. Less perfect. More authentic.